'Dickmatized': The state of being entranced with a penis that may be doing emotional damage

Starting today a bit late… Had way too much fun last night. Thankfully my head isn’t pounding. #WINNING!

I’ve been contemplating writing this post for months now. Actually it was supposed to be my first post but I was still feeling my audience out. I need to throw caution to the wind because this deliberate censorship is annoying even me. Anyway I was browsing the Internet when I came across something Jill Scott said.To be specific she was talking about being “Dickmatized”, basically being Dickmatized means being in a relationship or having relations with a man and its only sexually satisfying. He barely calls, he doesn’t remember your birthday, your fears, has no idea what you like… and the list goes on. I think to some extent we can all relate to this.

Now I’m always having random conversations with friends and this topic seems to be recurring.  But it’s funny because a couple days before I saw Jill Scott’s statement I was having this EXACT conversation with one of my male friends. (yeah there’s war in the world and we have detailed  conversations about penis… lol go figure).

But we were talking about it in the context of what our society has become. We’ve been falling in love with dicks instead of men and wondering why we have baby daddys and not fathers.

We scream at the top of our lungs that men are dogs, but never call that guy we had such great dates with, because the first time we slept with him wasn’t very satisfactory. Please don’t get me wrong here. Settling for less than best sex is not an option but isn’t sex something that with the right communication can improve? I’m sure nobody reading this right now was as good on their first time having sex as they are now. Great sex is something that can be mastered. Bad personalities are innate.  So why are we willing to chase men with qualities that we can’t change and discard those we actually can?

Similarly I was having a heated conversation with somebody on what I call “ breeding bitches”. You see I’m sick and tired of the female stereotype. Girls are bitches or girls can’t get along. I feel like we as females try to live up to that stereotype, so we are not as warm and open to each other but go out of our way to be one of the boys. I hear my male friends joke and complain about how it’s necessary to keep their female friends from different circles separate because apparently we behave like pit bulls in the same vicinity.

To tell you the truth these stereotypes have a lot of truth in them. But they still anger me. I’m annoyed that when I say hi to a new female I’ve been newly introduced to she rolls her eyes and barely talks back yet puts on her best self to impress the new boys around her -_-… Apparently I need a penis to make female friends.  But men condone this bitchy behavior. They witness it, know its wrong, shrug their shoulders and say “well she didn’t act like a bitch with me so it ain’t my problem”…..  I hope you say that when she takes your kids and half of your savings at your divorce hearing -_- !

 But here ends my rant…. hey, maybe these issues make the world go round.  If they didn’t exist what else would I waste time writing about?